Keeping it real
Bloggers love to chide one another about not "keeping it real," sharing only the best parts of their lives and keeping anything less than ideal to themselves. First of all, I have to say, of course we naturally do this! Isn't it only natural to put your best foot forward—to clean up before company comes, to choose your best cookie recipe to share with the neighbors, to doll up your children before a party?
Before I started blogging, I thought about this subject a lot. I tend to be a very negatively focused person, but I knew that I wanted my blog to be a positive place. I feel that over the past several years, blogging has helped me to look for the best in my day rather than the worst, and that is a big leap for me.
Another reason that I choose to share positives on this blog much more often than negatives is that I am more inspired by others who share positives. You could share about how disgusting your house is and that you haven't vacuumed in the last three years, but hearing that isn't going to help me or inspire me. I'd rather read about your small successes in the midst of chaos.
Am I a perfect housekeeper, wife, mother? Don't make me laugh. Some days (too many) my kids watch three hours of TV, fight incessantly, and stay up until ten. Sometimes we run out of clean plates, or clean laundry. Sometimes I feel like the floor of our entire house is covered in crumbs, books, and pieces of dismantled electronic objects. Sometimes I procrastinate for months things I should be doing, like calling the doctor or tidying up the guest room.
I have weaknesses. I fail. I cry. I don't often live up to my ideals. But most of you reading my blog are strangers to me. I don't know you, and I'm not going to share my day-to-day drama in a public forum.
In any case, I don't think I've crossed the line of pretended perfectionism on this blog—how could I, being so imperfect? I'm sure my flaws peek out from everything I write, from the occasional typo to the fact that all my recipes are photographed on the same spot on my kitchen counter because it's so easy to clear (and that's when I get around to photographing anything at all).
So now that I've broken three of my cardinal blogging rules (blogging about blogging; ranting; and focusing on the negative), tell me: what do you like to read? Do you prefer peeking into a perfect life, or do you prefer gritty realists, or something in-between? Do you make an effort to blog positively, or do you tell all? And how does this blog come across on the spectrum?