1/23/13

News flash: We're not perfect!


"God is fully aware that you and I are not perfect. 
"Let me add: God is also fully aware that the people you think are perfect are not.
And yet we spend so much time and energy comparing ourselves to others—usually comparing our weaknesses to their strengths. This drives us to create expectations for ourselves that are impossible to meet. As a result, we never celebrate our good efforts because they seem to be less than what someone else does. . . .
"Dear sisters, many of you are endlessly compassionate and patient with the weaknesses of others. Please remember also to be compassionate and patient with yourself. "
—Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf, "Forget Me Not," September 2011
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Do you ever feel inadequate? Do you ever fall prey to the trap of comparison? I do. A few years ago I realized that I needed to stop trying to be the best, and that doing my best would be healthier and more attainable.

Have you ever stopped to think what being your very best would be like? Every time I think of it, I see a glimpse of my true potential and I'm almost frightened by how big it is.

But it's a glimpse of the end that I'm getting, not of the present. I can't magically jump to the end and have it all now. If I eventually want to grow into the best I can be, I need to do my best now, even if it's hard, even if I sometimes disappoint myself.

2 comments:

  1. Dianna, What a wonderful post. I so agree, it is so hard to not fall into the comparsion trap.
    My children are all grown, and I will tell my husband, I wish I could go back,I would change things..He ask me what,and I replied that I would be a better mom an wife. I would :
    1- spend more time with my kids [like so and so does]
    2- I would teach them more of the every day life demands, than I did.[like so and so]
    3- I would cook healthier... and teach my children healthier habits
    4-My house would be cleaner, and more well kept [like Mrs.Clever]
    5- I would be a better daughter to my own mom and dad.
    6- I would be a better wife to him and his needs.
    7- I would not hold on to the little things that only create more anger.
    8- I would have worked harder on my friends for a better lasting friendship.
    His response was so wonderful.. He said:
    I think you have been a wonderful mom and wife/friend... And ,DO you not think that during out lives , God led the way, and even though your not perfect[God didn't make you perfect], The kids saw our struggles, they saw your caring, and God instilled in them the qualities that were necessary for them to go on with thier lives and teach their children.
    And he is so right, through all our "mistakes" ,God is there to lead us and open the eyes of the people around us, who might just have needed that "life lesson".
    I am trying to improve on my comparsion of myself to others.As you said so well, be my best now,even if its hard, and I dissappoint myself.

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  2. I think that beginning on a journey towards "your best" often feels like jumping off of a cliff. It's scary. Remember that music video of Eminem I posted right after I gave my 2 week notice at the daycare? 3 minutes into the video, he jumps off of a cliff and then a few seconds later starts flying. It's like that, sort of. You do something that you are afraid to do that you know is best in the longrun, and because of it, you'll fly. I hope that made sense.

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