Becoming LDS recently commented:
"Has your little man adjusted well to everything with the new one around? We are expecting a little girl in 4 months. We are super excited but also nervous of how our 2 1/2 year old will respond. Any advice?"Red Chief is doing better than I had thought. He was a month shy of three years old when Baby was born, and he isn't very comfortable around other children, especially babies. He has always been a sympathetic crier; he can't bear to see other children crying and it sets him off, too. He has also mentioned to us in the past that he's scared of babies.
We knew we'd have a big job getting him ready for Baby. We broke the news pretty early on, but didn't talk about it all the time. In the last month of the pregnancy, we escalated the conversations a bit. He didn't always want to talk about it, but after Baby came, we could see what worked.
Here are some books that helped us:
- Arthur's New Baby
- The New Baby (Little Critter)
- The New Baby Sticker Book. This book was especially helpful—we did a page a day and read over the whole thing every time we sat down to do more.
We also started training Red Chief to be a bit more independent. It's nice that he can walk places now instead of being carried, and he's slightly more obedient and helpful. I would have liked to have him potty trained, but that didn't work out.
Mr. Mordecai took Red Chief to buy a gift for Baby while we were in the hospital. Red Chief was very proud of himself for picking it out by himself and he really liked it when I showed Baby the gift.
As soon as Baby came home, all our conversations paid off. Red Chief wanted to hold her, which he did (with lots of help). He wanted her to stay in her crib, because we had talked about the baby sleeping in the crib. And most of all, he wanted to shove her pacifier in her mouth.
He's been pretty good with her so far. He still can't stand her crying ("Baby's crying goes inside you."). He also doesn't like it when I can't pay attention to him, so I try to spend as much time with him as possible, especially doing things like reading him stories and putting him to bed. He had a hard time for awhile when Grandma was taking care of him; he missed Mommy.
Red Chief is getting better with Baby every day, and I'm so proud of him. He's growing up so quickly and I love to see him hugging her and helping me.
Do you have any advice?